Is it better to forgive or to hold a grudge?

Question

Is it better to forgive or to hold a grudge?
I have, almost without exception, up until now, followed the former. I have just been treated with contempt by yet another person and have chosen to let it go.

Answer

Holy books tell you to forgive. Even forgive those who sin such as taking the life of another. Screw that, I say! brbrSome people talk about forgiving somebody or tell the person that they are going to forgive them..yet they still hold onto the emotions of anger, hurt, shame etc..brbrSometimes you just cant forget these emotions, which means you havent forgiven them but you can still accept and move on!brbrHOWEVERbrbrTo me the word quotGrudgequot sounds twisted and frightening. Like your about to seek revenge on the person, and creep up on their vulnerability. brbrPeople have done some things which I cant forgive, but I have accepted their apologies and moved on. To this day the situations havent been mentioned and we are the best of friends! So I have done the FORGOTTEN part but not the FORGAVE. I certainly hate the word revenge unless used in a jokey manor!brbrThank You! Take Care!